To more fully understand the experience of loss, it is helpful to understand it’s universality in human life. In a sense, we lose something along each step of life’s journey, from the concrete losses of people, places and objects we have come to cherish, to the more immaterial and equally significant loss of our youth, dreams or ideals as we navigate life’s twists and turns, up’s and downs.
Because the inescapable transitions we undergo from childhood to old age diminish as well as enlarge us, it is important to recognise that all change involves loss, just as all loss requires change.
Grieving is something we do as a natural response to loss. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to deal with grief; everyone experiences it in different ways. Often a person who is grieving will experience a wide array of emotions. The process isn’t linear, and doesn’t have a set time limit or intensity.
The grieving process is crucial to future happiness, emotional and social wellbeing and is part of the human experience, it is a journey through darkness that needs to happen. The pain subsides and the soul is stronger when you allow grieving to take its course however painful.
It’s vital you prioritiselooking after yourself. Give yourself the space to reflect and to explore your thoughts and feelings. Allow time to heal without setting unrealistic goals and deadlines and delay making major life decisions or changes. Being patient with the grieving process and allowing yourself to feel without the need to “get over it” or “move on” as time will inevitably ease your level of distress. Seek support from friends and family, keep a journal or exercise your creativity through painting, story writing, poetry or cooking.